Big post tonight. Tomorrow is the big day of the long awaited wedding. I think now is a good time to take a moment and thank HaShem for bringing me to this point, both in terms of my own journey through life and in helping me find Yael. As you may remember from a previous post, this shidduch was set in motion at least 5 years ago. I think it's pretty amazing that we are getting married in the place that we first met at my brother's wedding. Since the hashgacha in this is so obvious to me I don't think it requires dwelling on it.
So obviously I'm looking forward to tomorrow. But with that anticipation I think a reality check is in order. Marriages are hard. It's easy to say to myself that I have certain feelings towards Yael and our entire marriage will be magical and one life-long fairytale, but the reality is that marriages take work and they don't come easy. So while I'm anticipating embarking on this life-long journey with her and I look forward to the type of house that we will build together, it is unrealistic for me to think that the two of us will be able to handle this on our own.
There's a dvar torah that I've heard a number of times and I'll mention it here. Ish is spelled aleph-yud-shin and isha is spelled aleph-shin-hey. If man and wife come together but without the yud from ish and the hey from isha, you are left with an aish. If you don't include HaShem in your house, it will be consumed in fire. If you don't bring a sense of keddusha into your home, your anger and fury can easily destroy your marriage.
I think it's very important to go into tomorrow with a tefillah and a hope that our home is full of keddusha and it is a suitable place for the shechinah to come into. Since the hashgacha at the beginning of our relationship was so obvious to us, hopefully we will continue to see that hashgacha throughout the rest of our lives together and that will help us work on our marriage and growth as both individuals and as a couple.
So obviously I'm looking forward to tomorrow. But with that anticipation I think a reality check is in order. Marriages are hard. It's easy to say to myself that I have certain feelings towards Yael and our entire marriage will be magical and one life-long fairytale, but the reality is that marriages take work and they don't come easy. So while I'm anticipating embarking on this life-long journey with her and I look forward to the type of house that we will build together, it is unrealistic for me to think that the two of us will be able to handle this on our own.
There's a dvar torah that I've heard a number of times and I'll mention it here. Ish is spelled aleph-yud-shin and isha is spelled aleph-shin-hey. If man and wife come together but without the yud from ish and the hey from isha, you are left with an aish. If you don't include HaShem in your house, it will be consumed in fire. If you don't bring a sense of keddusha into your home, your anger and fury can easily destroy your marriage.
I think it's very important to go into tomorrow with a tefillah and a hope that our home is full of keddusha and it is a suitable place for the shechinah to come into. Since the hashgacha at the beginning of our relationship was so obvious to us, hopefully we will continue to see that hashgacha throughout the rest of our lives together and that will help us work on our marriage and growth as both individuals and as a couple.
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