As you may have heard, I got engaged this past Wednesday to the most A-M-A-Z-I-N-G girl in the world (shout out to Yael). As always, people ask, "How did you guys meet?" So take out your Meseches Yevamos and try to follow along.
Here are the characters you will have to know: my oldest brother, Levi; his wife, Deenie; her two sister's, Dawn and Risa; my second brother, Reuven; his wife, Shoshana; her parents, Mordechai and Yaffa; Mordechai's brother, Jeff (who is married to Risa); and Yaffa's sister, Rachel. [Like I warned: bring on the Meseches Yevamos.]
Levi grew up with Deenie and while they were dating after college, Dawn set up Reuven with Jeff and Risa's niece, Shoshana, daughter of Mordechai and Yaffa. Yael, my fiance, is Shoshana's cousin through their mothers. That's the gist of the family tree.
I dated a girl who Dawn's daughter thought would be good for me and, understandably, she said I was too yeshivish for her but she told Dawn that I might be good for her best friend instead. I went out with said friend on three dates but there was no real chemistry. These two girls happened to have gone to high school with Yael. They discussed with each other that I might be good for Yael instead. Yael called her cousin, my sister-in-law, Shoshana and she called me. I had already "known" Yael for five years as my sister-in-law's cousin but that entailed little more than just saying "Good Shabbos". I gave it some thought and decided I would take her out and give it a try. The next 4 months and change are the result, and they have been nothing short of wonderful.
So what's the point? What is the hisorerus?
If you're asking that question, you may want to read the family tree and story one more time. Hashgacha works in ways we can never understand. There is a time and place for everything that HaShem does. If the timing isn't right, it won't happen. And when the time comes, it'll work out in ways you never expected. I had seen Yael numerous times throughout the last 5 years, but never in my wildest dreams would I have thought that we would be getting married.
PS Her uncle was my Rabbi in fifth grade.
Here are the characters you will have to know: my oldest brother, Levi; his wife, Deenie; her two sister's, Dawn and Risa; my second brother, Reuven; his wife, Shoshana; her parents, Mordechai and Yaffa; Mordechai's brother, Jeff (who is married to Risa); and Yaffa's sister, Rachel. [Like I warned: bring on the Meseches Yevamos.]
Levi grew up with Deenie and while they were dating after college, Dawn set up Reuven with Jeff and Risa's niece, Shoshana, daughter of Mordechai and Yaffa. Yael, my fiance, is Shoshana's cousin through their mothers. That's the gist of the family tree.
I dated a girl who Dawn's daughter thought would be good for me and, understandably, she said I was too yeshivish for her but she told Dawn that I might be good for her best friend instead. I went out with said friend on three dates but there was no real chemistry. These two girls happened to have gone to high school with Yael. They discussed with each other that I might be good for Yael instead. Yael called her cousin, my sister-in-law, Shoshana and she called me. I had already "known" Yael for five years as my sister-in-law's cousin but that entailed little more than just saying "Good Shabbos". I gave it some thought and decided I would take her out and give it a try. The next 4 months and change are the result, and they have been nothing short of wonderful.
So what's the point? What is the hisorerus?
If you're asking that question, you may want to read the family tree and story one more time. Hashgacha works in ways we can never understand. There is a time and place for everything that HaShem does. If the timing isn't right, it won't happen. And when the time comes, it'll work out in ways you never expected. I had seen Yael numerous times throughout the last 5 years, but never in my wildest dreams would I have thought that we would be getting married.
PS Her uncle was my Rabbi in fifth grade.
Being that I am the Kallah of this E-X-T-R-A-O-R-D-I-N-A-R-Y guy (shout out to Avi), I too feel the incredible hashgacha that our relationship has been blessed with. How crazy is it that over the past five years I interfaced casually with Avi several times not knowing he was my zivug??? And, when the time was right, we were brought together! The always comforting concepts of belief in A Master Plan and handing things over to a Higher Power are very much always going to be celebrated in our bayis ne'eman b'yisrael!!
ReplyDeleteI'm a big fan of hashgacha pratis - this is a wonderful story and example of HaShem's guiding hand in our lives, making things happen at just the right time. Y'all should be zoche to build a bayis ne'eman b'yisrael, and only have bracha v'hatzlacha in both the ruchniyus and the gashmiyus until 120!
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